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Why is pre marital sex wrong? It just seems ironic that priests, who vow to never have sex, get to make up the rules of when people can have sex. im not trying to get nasty with the question if thats the way it comes out. im just wondering. and i do agree that if you do follow the rules then you will live a good probably happire life. thanks Answer by Fr. Matthew Habiger - NFP Outreach on 9/14/2007: Dear young Anony, FIrst aof all, understand that priests (clergy) do not make up; the rules of sexual morality. A healthy sexual ethic is too important to place in the hands of any mere mortal. Priests (clergy and moral leaders) only teach what the rules are. God designed human nature, the two sexes, human sexuality, marriage, spousal love and family. Only He determines the sexual ethic, what is right and what is wrong. The Church only teaches God's plan for all these matters. Why is premarital sex wrong? Because it is pretending to be someone you are not. As God designed sex, it was meant to be expressed only between married people who have publicly declared their intention to enter into an intimate relationship of love and life for the rest of their lives. A married man and woman have pledged themselves to make the total, unconditioned gift of self to one another. They will open their lives to children, and lovingly provide a home for them and help them throughout their childhood and adolescence Sex is authentically expressed only between a man and a woman who have make these commitments to one another. By their marriage vows, a husband and wife have capacitated each other to be capable of the spousal act. The unmarried are not capable of the spousal act, which must always be open to the unitive (love-giving) and procreative (life-giving) dimensions. Premarital sex falls way short of what God designed sex to be. Premarital sex does not say, express, or accomplish what God designed sex to express and accomplish. It simply is the pursuit of pleasure, releasing sexual tension, with some appearances of romance. There is no commitment, no self-sacrifice, and no self-discipline. Premarital sex is wrong because it is an injustice to the man, to the woman, and to the child that may be conceived. It is an injustice to the man because he should be the protector and provider of his wife and family, and should not be exploiting a woman. It is an in justice to the woman because she wants and needs a firm commitment from her spouse that he will always be there for her, and not run out on her when problems arise. It is an injustice to the unborn child, because every child has a right to be born through an act of love by parents who have pledged themselves to love this child unconditionally and provide a loving home for him or her. Premarital sex is wrong because the people who engage in it are making up their own rules for sex, and are attempting to redefine it. Chastity was designed for everyone, and everyone is capable of acquiring it. Cordially yours, Fr. Matthew Habiger OSB